Adapting...

On a walk recently I noticed a cat crossing the road and I could see it had 3 legs. I have no idea when or how this occurred but what did occur to me is how this cat had adapted and seemed to be walking comfortably and clearly remained confident to be outdoors and to continue exploring its environment.

Quite different, albeit similar in some respect, people often ask when exploring the option or considering donor conception how a child might adapt and what the impact on them might be of being Donor conceived?

I always feel that the truth is a child likely doesn’t need to adapt to anything as this is who they are. The only thing they will be adapting to is exactly the same as for all children, growing, developing and making sense of their world as they see it and as it is presented to them.

I think the question the hopeful parent/s are really asking is how do I/we “adapt” to this route to parenthood which might be different to how I/we always contemplated having a child/creating a family? This is a more personal and appropriate question and with curiosity, compassion and perhaps creativity we can locate some answers and perhaps also some peace and acceptance.

As in many areas of life, when we ask the right question, we can find the true path that can lead to fitting reactions and answers.

What questions are in your mind right now…what truth are you seeking?

This quote from Dolly sums it up succinctly:

“We cannot direct the wind, but we can adjust the sails.” – Dolly Parton