Playing with the light....

In my house I have a room which I go into frequently. The door that separates me from the room is one that once opened, has a mind of its own and automatically closes…sometimes slowly and sometimes a bit faster.  I like to play a game when I open this door and go into the room, I don’t switch on the light and try and do what I need / get what I require before the door closes. I only have a matter of seconds and moment by moment the light becomes more and more scarce. More often than not I give the door a push to re-open it and ‘buy’ myself more time. It’s rare for me to be in and out in one movement.

Why do I bring this up?

Earlier in the week I gave a talk about ‘the impact that Fertility Treatment can have on Relationships’.  This was to students on a counselling Diploma to help them appreciate when they have someone come see them who is contemplating or going through fertility difficulties / treatments some of the things to be aware of.

How does this Talk that I gave and my self-closing door make it into the same Blog post?

I appreciate your patience, which fits in to what I will share…

I was busy preparing my talk and it occurred to me when I was pushing open the door every so often ‘to let in the light again’ that this is helpful for us in relationships. Over time, the doors close on relationships and with stability, security and consistency comes reliability and also sometimes (potentially) a bit of taking one another for granted. It got me thinking when I was pushing open the door and letting in more light that this is helpful for relationships – every so often do something special, remember to say I care / I love you / Thank you or do something new or challenging together.

Letting the light back into the relationship, being playful, patient, engaging in conversation, talking, sharing and reminding each other what place you each hold for one another.

Important reminders and foundation for when the darkness falls.