Letting go...

Letting go is finding peace.

Letting go is welcoming some sense of acceptance.

Letting go is not ‘forgetting’!

After a loss many people often think they will never be free of the pain and whilst I appreciate everyone’s reaction to loss is different and whilst this may be true for some, most often and at some point the intensity and frequency of the pain subsides.

Depending on the loss it is worth bearing in mind that when we hold on so tightly we may not allow ourselves the ability to grieve and to loosen (our grasp) and to release (the tensions). By releasing we can open up and provide some space. This can be incredibly difficult to do and also to find the appropriate time, albeit it’s often not a conscious decision but happens more naturally and in its own time.

Letting go is not forgetting, it is holding onto in a different way. Also…holding ‘onto’ is different to holding ‘on’.

If you have or are suffering with loss and having difficulty finding a way through this, give some thought to whether you are holding onto the loss or if it’s attached itself to you. Allow yourself space and time and at some point, when ready think about how it might feel if you weren’t suffering and how would you know the suffering (in its current form) had subsided/reduced or ceased?