Blog | Anthony Ryb Counselling & Psychotherapy

How have things changed for you?

Many times over these recent months I’ve heard many people ask questions like: 'will things ever be the same', '(when) do you think things will go back to normal', 'life is so different now' etc What variants of those have you heard or possibly said yourself? Life is different now and our world has changed, this is the truth. As such I was thinking that it may be a helpful exercise to note down how exactly life has changed for you and in what ways (both positive and negative) that it is different right now. Once alive on paper you will be able to see areas that are benefiting you and you wish to develop further and others that are causing stress or distress and require support. Words can be

Anthony Ryb

Jul 19

Hot or Cold?

When I remember back to plunging or being immersed into cold water (a swimming pool, the sea, a shower etc) I can feel my body tensing up, often even before the event in preparedness and readiness for what’s about to happen. Whereas stepping into a heated swimming pool or taking a warm shower everything feels more relaxed and comfortable. I’m wondering if this is the same with our minds. For example when we are cold towards someone or feel they may have been rude/cold or avoided us as opposed to when we smile at someone, do a kind deed or have received some form of generosity. Have a think about your body / mind’s connection to heat and warmth vs cold and iciness. Where do you feel it, which

Anthony Ryb

Jul 12

A single match...

I recently heard someone say, ‘all you need is one match to start a fire’. This was suggested in a positive way, albeit has made me reflect on areas of life where one thing (small or large) has made a difference and created an impact…either positively or negatively. If you’ve ever (body) surfed, the image that springs to mind is when you attempt to catch a wave and if timed correctly it’s a beautiful and fulfilling feeling that smoothly carries you or when mis-timed it crushes you. In this example, same wave, different result. Consider those ‘single matches’ that changed the course of your life…for better or worse and if worse what lessons have you learnt and changes put in place to help tur

Anthony Ryb

Jul 5

Slow it down...

Our bodies are primed to respond to danger in what’s commonly called the ‘fight or flight’ response. This is innate and primal and can be a life saver in times of real crisis or threat. Fortunately for most of us, it will be incredibly rare that we truly experience such danger in our lives however the response mechanism inside of us often doesn’t distinguish between a real emergency or threat and the stresses we often bring upon ourselves and potentially make bigger than they are. As an example, the school test, business proposal / deadlines, making a speech, financial worries, contemplating or going through a break up. Others might include fear of spiders / other things, needles (blood test

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How have things changed for you?

Hot or Cold?

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